Written by Dr. John Carosso
Subtle difference?
Well, it’s really not so subtle. It’s the difference between labeling your child, or simply describing an annoying and transient behavior.
What’s the big deal?
When we call our kids “lazy,” “rude,” “liars,” “thieves,” or whatever, we are defining their character, and suggesting that this is their enduring quality. Okay, so now you’re saying, well, they are! That may be true, but I’ll bet you can think of lots of times when your child is motivated, nice, told the truth, and did not steal. Even if the particular behavior is somewhat enduring, your child is still young; their personality is molding and shaping, and you’re in a strategic position to help shape it in the right direction.